Thursday, September 29, 2011

Please remain seated......

while the pilot has the fasten seat belt sign lit.  In approximately 42 hours, Miyagi, my ABD and I will be embarking on our first plane ride!! 

Instead of being so excited for this upcoming adventure, my first thought was "F^%*, we are going to be THAT family".  You all know what I am talking about.  Remember the days, or for those of you still living in them, when you are sitting in your seat and you see a family with a baby boarding the plane.  You silently say a prayer to yourself, or maybe out loud, "PLEASE do not let them be sitting next to me, PLEASE". 

Well....guess what....move over! We're sitting right next to you!

I just hope Miyagi doesn't poop on the plane!

Tuesday, September 20, 2011

Get Some.......

In my opinion (isn't everything on this blog my opinion), getting your arsenal of Mommy Friends is a critical factor in your success as a mother! Now, don't get it twisted, you can't just have ANY sort of Mommy Friends.  There are certain MF's (ha, that's funny) that every mother should have...this isn't an all inclusive list, but I think it hits the majority of them.
*P.S. - An MF can be a family member, neighbor, co-worker whatever. Doesn't just have to be a "friend"

1. An Old Schooler:  This is the MF that doesn't believe in all the new-age hype. Their advice is based on things that worked for them in the past, even if it was 1947, but hey, "if it ain't broke, don't fix it".  You might hear an old schooler say things like "NEVER wake a sleeping baby" or "If you want your baby to not have an outtie (belly button) put some gauze and a half dollar on their naval"!  WARNING: If you are not an old schooler and you try to explain some new school stuff, they MIGHT just have heart attack. "WHAT, what do you mean babies can't sleep with blankets!"

2. The New Age/Research Parenter:  This is the MF who is really into different parenting theories on how to raise their children.  The theories range from when to feed a baby, how to get them to sleep, potty training, etc.  The best thing about these MF's....they have read the books, done the research, have things highlighted, tabbed, indexed and can tell you verbatim what to do.  What does this mean for you..... you don't have to do ANY of the "work" but can reap all of the benefits!  Thank you to all my BABYWISE mom's, you know who you are :-)

3. The Encourager:  I love this MF! Not that I don't love all the others, but this is the MF who makes you feel like you are the best mom in the world!  When you are doubting every decision you have made about your child's well being, this is the MF that will tell you, "You know exactly what to do".  Unfortunately, there are a lot of other Non-MF's (I feel I should shout out to Evelyn on Basketball Wives, even though it's not in the same context, I digress) who love to tell you what you are doing wrong, so having The Encourager around is critical.  Thank you to the one who told me "If you love your baby and feed your baby, you are doing a great job!"

4. The Newbie:  If you don't have one of these, and you are a mom, GET ONE...ASAP!  This may seem conceited in a way, but so what :-)  The Newbie is a new first time mom, who is MORE inexperienced than you are.  The best thing about them, they LOVE to know what you know!!!!  It's a total power trip, but hey, you deserve it...just use your power wisely.  You get to share all of your experiences with them and it makes you feel more experienced which increases your ability to raise your own kids.  It's Karma.  If someone helps you, you must help someone else.

5. Fun Times:  If you aren't sure if you have a Fun Time MF...just check your phone history, text messages, emails etc.  Is there another mom who you constantly interact with, send pictures of your kids, love to tell each other what's going on, what new stuff you found, set up fun play date?? If so, those are your Fun Time MF's! Mothering becomes so much more fun when you have several of these!  It's even better if your kids are close in age, say a few weeks apart :-)

BONUS MOMMY FRIEND: This one is extree (yeah, extreeeee) special!  The Bonus Mommy friend, is  not a mom at all!  This is the friend who despite not having kids, loves your kid! Not only does she (or he, I guess) tell you how amazing your baby is and LOVE to get pictures, but the BMF lets you also live vicariously through them...a life of "freedom". HA!  If you have really good BMF's, your baby may always be decked out in awesome baby gear (hello, Big Pony shirts or future MJ outfits). But that's not why we love them!

There are definitely more MF's out there, and even if you don't find yourself in one of these categories, the fact that you are a MF at all, well, that's more special than you know! So to all my MF's......xoxoxoxoxox! I wouldn't be the mom I am without you!

Wednesday, September 7, 2011

Just a Quickie.....

Get your minds out of the gutter, even though it's so nice to go there sometimes :-)  My next post was going to be about the critical "mommy friends" that I feel everyone should have, but I had to take a quick detour. 

I wanted to give a quick shot out to my, and all the other, AMAZING Baby Daddies (ABD's)!  (side note: Yes, I am married to Miyagi's dad, but I lovingly refer to him as Baby Daddy!). 

I had a great conversation with one of my favorite mommy friends this morning about how lucky we are to have amazing baby daddies!  Not just because they are there for our children, which they do a stand-up job of that, but more importantly...they are there for us! 

Sometimes as a mom we can lose ourselves in our new roles.  We get so wrapped up in taking care of our children, our homes, our husbands (or significant others) that we forget about ourselves.  This is where those ABD's come in.  They want to make sure that we take care of ourselves.  They knew us (in most, but not all situations) before we became moms so they know when we just aren't "ourselves".  They love us enough that they want for us to be WHOLE! Not just moms and wives....but they want us to be that woman.... that woman they fell in love with!

To all the ABD's .... I salute you!
And because I write this blog..... to my ABD.... Like you! Love you!

Saturday, September 3, 2011 first time

It's true, this is my first time.  My first time writing a blog and more importantly my first time being a mother.  I would like to throw out a few disclaimers to anyone choosing to read this. 

1.) I've never blogged before, so if there is blogging etiquette.. I don't know what it is! (and probably don't care)

2.) This blog will not be grammatically correct.  I have a HATE relationship with the comma! I think I should put it in places where it shouldn't be and probably don't put it in places where it should be.  So if you are a stickler for those types of things, turn around NOW! 

3.) I don't have a set format in mind....this may end up just being a bunch of ramblings.

4.) This blog should not be taken and used as advice that would be backed up by any sort of child psychologist, pediatrician or child research professional/expert.  

Now, that we have that out of the way! Let's begin!

I decided to write a blog for no other reason than I like to hear myself talk and I think that others should also hear what I have to say.  What you choose to do with it is on you.  We are all adults here! 

As I said before, I am a first time mom! Woohoo!  And let me tell you, it's by far the SCARIEST thing I've ever done in my life! My son, we will call Miyagi, (that's not his real name, but actually that is what we called the child during my pregnancy because we chose not to find out the gender) is 7 months of wonderful ooey-gooey goodness! I've had 7 months of realization that I have no clue what I am doing, but that is absolutely okay! 

Lesson #1: It's okay to admit that you have no clue how to take care of another human being.  It does not make you a bad mom! 

Lucky for me, I have an absolutely wonderful support system (the internet is NOT on the top of the list--see Lesson #2) who have helped me along. I'll talk about them in another post (Woah! Another post, I'm already thinking of my next post!)

Lesson #2: The internet is wonderfully damaging!  You can get GREAT information but also it can make you question everything you ever thought you may have known and also make you feel like an idiot by telling you things you didn't know but probably should have!

Okay, I've realized I could probably go on forever, but Miyagi is taking a I'm going to try and enjoy the maybe 17 minutes I have left watching some trashy tv (that he has absolutely NEVER seen in his life....does sarcasm come across well in blogs???) 

Until next time, HOLLA!